FRIENDS ARE FAMILY WE CHOOSE !!! by Sneha Narayan

Friendship day 2020

This Friendship day might be the most exceptional one in our  life this friendship day we are spending under lockdown since last six months which has got a feeling of sadness and tragedies in our life .A  small attempt from my side to bring a smile on the faces of all my friends who have made my life heaven on earth THANK YOU to all my friends. Hope have not missed any of you enjoy the roller coaster ride to to LAND OF FRIENDSHIP.

This day we all friends are apart due to the CORONA PANDEMIC and THE SOCIAL DISTANCING. The whole world is very badly affected with this disease but yes nobody can stop us to celebrate this friendship day. Here is a small article which I dedicate to all my friends since today we cannot meet each other.

 

 

HOPE You Like It Love U All !!

Needless to say, friends are the most cherished and valued people in our lives, who make the journey of life a little simpler. From knowing our deepest secrets to helping us in difficult times, a friend truly makes our lives wonderful. Especially, in the times of a pandemic, friends are the ones who lift up our spirits in these gloomy times and stand with us.
In order to celebrate this special bond, July 30 is celebrated across the world as the official International Friendship Day.

The day is known to have originated from Hallmark cards, by Joyce Hall, in 1930 and was first observed in 1958. In 2011, the General Assembly of the United Nations declared July 30 as official International Friendship Day with the idea that friendship between peoples, countries, cultures and individuals can build bridges between communities.

Celebrated on different dates at different places, several countries celebrate friendship day either before or after the UN-designated date.

Life would be so boring if we were to not have any friends that we can talk to, go out with or just spend time with. When you stay far away from your home and family, friends are the only comfort you will have in a place that is full of strangers. They are there when you need them and are always ready to get up to some mischief or go on an adventure with you.

To celebrate the spirit of friendship, every year, in India the first Sunday in August is marked as Friendship Day, and this year it falls on 2nd of August !

Through friendship by accumulating bonds of
camaraderie and developing strong ties of trust we can contribute to the fundamental shifts that are urgently needed to achieve lasting stability, weave a safety net that will protect us all, and generate passion for a better world where all are united for the greater good.”

But whatever the day or month Friendship Day falls on, we do not really need an excuse to celebrate friendship and can mark it daily if we wish to.

To show our appreciation to the friends in our lives, we could send them some messages or greetings to let them know they are remembered. You could also check out some of the quotes that describe what a friend is.
But by writing this article i would thank each and every friend of mine to walk in every phase of my life.
Thank a ton guys.you all never felt me alone on this earth.

Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learnt the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learnt anything.

Friends pour into your life in different walks of life. Let’s start with  first ones close family wali,sibling wali,school wali, Neighbour  wali,college wali ,
Shaddi wali,work place  wali ,society wali,travel wali,abroad wali,extra classes wali,morning marathon wali,music class wali ,chanting wali, they come in your life in an unexpected way so random wali,bhut helping hand wali,my Autism group wali too add shipping wali  and some which i personally dont like is selfish and trap wali bhi.Inse bach ke rehna.
The the most cherished one is my  idols in life wali. Mere dada jee babujee,papa mummy wali Amma jee and Masi dee  wali.FFriendship can be between men and men, women and men & women and women and some exception too with add on kids gang.

I have grown up with small group of female friends. I’ve always had 1-5 girlfriends in a convent  school later in high school some girlfriends and the rest were guys in family only  brothers of my age or elder ones friends..later my better half my best friend my husband came into my life and then my most cherished best friend my soul my part my son came into my life. Feel so blessed to have all of them in my life.
There’s a huge difference between a friendship with a man than a friendship with a woman.
With female friends, there’s an UNSPOKEN LANGUAGE AND A MUTUAL RESPECT.

When you’re in a group of secure women, it’s like you’re in a TRIBE.

You don’t have to personally know one another to feel a bond with them. However, it takes a certain kind of woman to give off an energy that makes others feel like they can open up to them and talk to them about anything. Those are the women I want to be friends with. Those are the best types of friends!

THE WOMAN WITH STRONG BELIEFS

he’s the woman always posting on Facebook about her opinions and beliefs. She doesn’t do it in a way that’s offensive. She respects your beliefs, but you best believe that she will have a healthy debate with you any day. She will happily “agree to disagree” and go about her merry way. You don’t agree with her? Good. You aren’t exactly the same and she appreciates your differences. I like a woman that knows exactly what she believes in, what led her to those beliefs, and the facts behind them.

WHY IS SHE A GOOD FRIEND?

She is the friend that will stand up for you. She doesn’t care what trouble it will cause her because in her heart, she knows what’s right.

2. THE WOMAN THAT’S ALWAYS LAUGHING !!

There’s something that wins me over about a girl that’s always smiling or laughing. I’m not referring to the polite smiler. I am referring to the girl that laughs more than the average person. I’m referring the one who will smile when you walk into the room, whether you’re a stranger or a friend. These are the girls that appreciate life. She loves the little moments and is grateful to be in your presence. I bet her laugh is pretty contagious, too.

WHY IS SHE A GOOD FRIEND?

She is the one that will find a light shining in the darkest of hours. She will flip your bad day and make it into a beautiful one. My soul thrives off of positive people. I need these type of friends to survive. I need a friend that makes me laugh in the most inappropriate situations.

3.THE MATURE AND LOUD AND VULGAR TALK ONE !!
There are so many reasons why I love women like this. I love a friend that you can’t put on speaker phone in public. I love a friend you have to lecture before taking her to meet you grandparents. These are the women that take life by the balls and then laugh because I said balls. If my cheeks aren’t red from embarrassment, then this isn’t you. She’s the friend that blatantly asks about your sex life and tells you a little too much information about hers. I love a girl that says all the wrong things at all the wrong times, but is there for you when you need her to be.

WHY IS SHE A GOOD FRIEND?

She’s the one that threatens your boyfriends if they hurt you. This is the type of friend that you can tell anything to without her flinching. She’s the one that you call at 2am because you need a good vent session and maybe a drink or two. She’s not afraid to be herself and would never judge you for being you.

4. THE ONE THAT ASKS QUESTIONS !!!
I have the worst social anxiety. I can have a mind full of thoughts and have them all disappear as soon as someone walks up to me. I’m not so good at interacting, face to face, with my peers. I clam up and just don’t know what to say. If a woman is really outgoing and surrounded by people, I wont talk walk up to her because of my anxiety. That’s why a woman that asks questions is the best kind of friend. When someone asks me questions about my life, it’s because they care. They are interested in getting to know me. I love that feeling because I slowly start to ease up. My heart stops racing and I slowly become more comfortable.

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WHY IS SHE A GOOD FRIEND?

She puts in the effort. She takes the time out of her day to talk to you and ask questions. She walks up to you just to goes out of her way to talk to you. She’s the kind of friend that will always be there when you need her. She will always know what’s going on in your life before everyone else.

5. THE WOMAN THATS A LITTLE SHY OR DIFFERENT !!!

In a public setting, I find myself drawn to the ladies that are shy and/or different. If she’s standing alone, I’ll make an effort to talk to her. I always think, “Maybe she’s like me. Maybe she has anxiety. Maybe she is uncomfortable.” I never, ever want someone to feel alone or to feel like an outcast. I want everyone to be comfortable and to feel like someone is on their team. She is the one who stands out in the crowd, but doesn’t know it. She may be standing quietly in the corner, but her presence is known..

WHY IS SHE IS MY FRIEND !

She doesn’t make friends with just anyone. She’s not very outgoing or a “people person”. But boy, when you break down her walls she is full of depth. She has so much to say and is the most loyal friend. I would probably have a lot in common with her because I’m pretty strange myself. Quirky, weird, and different people are my favorite

WHY HAVING MORE THAN ONE BEST FRIEND IS OKAY.

Best friends. We’ve all had one, or two or even three. They come and go, and if we’re lucky we’ve had a best friend for a really long time. And as life goes, you come across an abundance of people, or maybe just a few, that all mean so much to you in their own way. But, is having more than one best friend okay? If you already have a best friend, but consider another friend your best friend as well, does it really count?

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The answer, if not obvious already, is yes. And here’s why.

ALL FRIENDSHIPS ARE DIFFERENT !!!

Each friendship develops differently and they each have their own special moments. It’s the differences in the friendships that make each and every one of them so important, because none is like the other. Some friendships start off immediately while others take time to progress. And some friendships have their own traditions while others tend to go with the flow, but in the end they all matter. The way they started and what makes them different is what leads you to consider that person as your best friend.

ALL FRIENDS HAVE THEIR OWN SUPERPOWER !!!

Believe it or not, friends have superpowers. It’s not the kind of superpowers that you read in a comic or see in a movie, but it’s more of the realistic kind of superpowers. The kind where they know exactly what to do when you are feeling sad or know what to say to encourage you when you are feeling doubtful. Having more than one best friend, you realise that each of them have their own superpower and not all are the same. And despite the differences in each of them though, you realise that their friendship along with their amazing superpowers are exactly what keeps you grounded.

TIME DOESN’T MATTER WITH FRIENDSHIPS !!!

Friendships begin in all throughout our lives. You may have your high school best friend, but you may also have a college best friend. Just because you meet someone earlier or later than another doesn’t mean that their friendship doesn’t hold the same value. Yes, friendships take time to grow, but you will know if that new friend that you met a few months or so ago is your best friend. Not through how long you’ve known each other, but rather through the special moments that have tucked themselves deep inside your heart. A New York Times bestselling author called Dodinsky says, “There are friendships imprinted in our hearts that will never be diminished by time and distance.”

DESPITE THE DIFFERENT FRIENDSHIPS YOU LOVE THEM ALL THE SAME !!

When you ask your parents who they love the most between you and your siblings and they respond with, “We love you all the same,” you might sigh and roll your eyes. But, when having more than one best friend, you begin to somewhat understand what they mean. Despite the different friendships, despite all the special moments shared within each friendship and despite the various superpowers your friends may have, you realise that you love them all the same. And that love is shown in their own special way.

But don’t forget, friendship is a two-way street. Make sure to show your best friends your own super powers and help them through their struggles. Let them know that they all mean a lot to you and show them that it’s the differences that make them special.